By Chelsie Popp (@chellybeats)
For the most part, it just sucks. Trying to do your own thing with the people who made you constantly breathing over your shoulders. Becoming an adult is supposed to come with freedom and extra perks, but when you still live at home with your parents in your early to late 20’s, it’s easy to feel like a grown up child with a lot more stress.
Along with the pressure, however, there are great things about living in your childhood bedroom too. Let’s start off on a positive note.
PRO: LIVING FOR FREE
Rent, groceries, insurance, and other human necessities – these can all add up and take the majority of your paycheque. More often than not, if you still live at home, your parents happily keep you fed and under their roof for free or at the fraction of the price you’d pay out in the real world. This pro itself has unlimited perks. Without the stress of knowing where your next meal might come from, you can focus solely on saving the money you make, going to school, or just bettering yourself. It’s a win-win. Just make sure to thank your folks every so often for keeping you alive.
CON: PARENTAL CURIOSITY
When you live on your own, you can definitely get away with texting/calling or having dinner with your parents once a week and letting them in on what you’d like them to know about your life. Living with them is a whole different story. They know when you leave the house, and what time you get back. They can hear you even behind the closed door of your bedroom. And they have every opportunity to ask you what you’re doing, who you’re seeing, and what you’re spending your money on. If that isn’t bad enough, they are definitely in tune to all the bad habits you accumulated in your first year of college. Here come the comments about over indulgence.
PRO: PARENTS ARE YOUR HUMAN PLANNERS
Maybe it’s because I’m just a nervous person in general, but I absolutely hate picking up the phone to make appointments or plans. And half the time I just can’t remember what I have to do and when it has to be done. Luckily, mothers are a thing. She’ll make sure you get your teeth cleaned and cavities filled every six months, get you to go to the doctor at least once a year, and ensure that you don’t lose touch with your extended family by bringing you to get-togethers and dinners. And by living at home, your parents will inevitably know your work schedule; you won’t be calling in sick just because you “need” a day to yourself.
If you have ever been on your own, you know that there are no rules. You can party when you want, be as loud as you want, eat what you want, and have the messiest place in the world, if you want. That doesn’t fly in your ‘rents home. Dishes need to be done daily, they can tell if you smell, and you can’t have that box of cookies for breakfast. You’re living at home for free or cheap so it’s fair that the owners of the house would expect you to help out a little bit. Still a major bummer though.
Sometimes the pros outweigh the cons and vice versa, depending on the kind of day you’re having. There are moments of intense appreciation for what your parents are doing for you, and there are aggressive arguments that make you want to move out immediately, but for some, that’s just not an option. It can be exhausting especially when a lot of your peers and old classmates are out on their own, seemingly loving life. It can even get a bit discouraging as you question what your next move in life is, and if you’re truly growing as a person and experiencing new things in the confines of your familiar living situation. The key is to stay positive, work towards your future plans and passions, and try to appreciate the good that comes with the struggle.